Keep It Humble Part 3: All in the Family

Remember that old show All in the Family? Didn’t you just want to slap Archie Bunker half the time? Talk about lack of respect toward, well…anyone! 
We’re working on
keeping it classy, i.e. humble. Last week, you were challenged to spend one
week, just one, abhorring what is evil and clinging to what is good.
Did you do it? Did
you have to give anything up that didn’t line up with God’s thoughts? I did.
Did you meditate on
the scriptures I included with the post? Any particular one stick out to you?
(You can share that in the comments believe if you want.) You can read the last
two parts in the series, just click on them.
It feels good to
please the Lord, doesn’t it?
We’re unpacking
Romans 12:9-21 over the next few weeks. Today we’re going to camp on verse 10.
“Be kindly affectionate
to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one
another;” NKJV
note, this verse is talking about how believers should interact with other
The Greek
word for “Be kindly affectionate” is philostorgos
which means prone to love, affection of parents/children, but it comes
from a root word that will help us give the meaning a deeper richness.
Philostorgos comes from the root word, philos. You may recognize this word from a
Bible study or from your pastor’s preaching in regard to phileo love. Friendly
affection; one of the bridegroom’s friends who on his behalf asked the hand of
the bride and rendered him various services in closing the marriage and
celebrating the nuptials.
BFF kind
of love. Think about who you chose as your maid/matron of honor or who you/your
husband chose as a best man.
I like to
call friends who are like family, fremily.
This word
means to cherish one’s kindred.
What makes
us family, fremily, kindred?




Like our
biological siblings, we don’t choose who becomes part of our family. But we do
love them.
And how we
treat them, means a lot to our Father. A lot to our Bridegroom, who chose each
one before the foundation of the world. He put copious amounts of thought into
each member of our family, including you. Including me. And He expects us to
get along. And not just get along…
honor giving preference to one another.”
break down each one of these words to grasp the whole meaning. Otherwise we
can’t apply it, and if we aren’t going to apply God’s Word to our lives, why
even read it in the first place? We’re wasting our time. No?
The Greek
word for honor is timē and it means a
couple of things. And the first will seem odd, but we’re going to see it in a
Ready for
a valuing by which the price is fixed; of the price paid or received for a person or thing bought
or sold
This is
where we say, “Um…????”
It also
means, honour which belongs or is shown to one;
of the honour which one has by reason of rank and state of office which he
holds; deference, reverence
This Greek
word, timē, is found 43 times in the
Greek concordance of the KJV. I’d think we should pay attention to it, yes?
Let’s look
at a few of them to pull these two definitions together. I want you to get this
way down deep!
the chief priests took the silver pieces, and said, It is not lawful for to put
them into the treasury, because it is the price of blood.” Matthew 27:6 KJV
ye are bought with a price:
therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
1 Corinthians 6:20 KJV
those members of the body, which we think to be less honourable, upon these we
bestow more abundant
honour;  and our uncomely parts
have more abundant comeliness.” 1 Corinthians 12:23
our comely parts have no need: but God hath tempered the body together, having
given more abundant honour
to that part which lacked:” 1 Corinthians 12:24
We are to
love our brothers and sisters in Christ and revere them. Each of them. Even the
ones that you don’t connect with well. The ones who at the last meeting still
have questions that make no sense and you just want to get home. The ones who
buck and kick at every single change the leadership makes. The ones who spread
rumors about you, slander your name, intentionally try to hurt you. The ones in
the limelight and over 400 ministries and love everyone to know it. The ones
who struggle. The ones who seem to always need one more prayer, one more word
of encouragement. The ones who suck the life out of you.
The ones
who are easy for you to slip by because they’re quiet and fade into the
background. The ones who will talk your ear off if you don’t hide or pretend to
be engrossed in a conversation with someone else. The ones who will nag the
stew out of you to volunteer for a program/ministry you do not feel you should
do (but they never care because if it’s important to them it should be on
everyone’s top priority). The ones who remind the whole world how important
they are and how much they tithe.
The ones
you pour into regularly and ignore your counsel. The ones who never call you by
the right name and you’ve known them ten years. The ones that reject you, let
you down, ignore your heart, overlook you, pass you by, call you only when they
need a favor or for you to lead a ministry, take credit when you’ve done all
the work, make decisions you know are wrong, never make you feel welcome or a
part of the team, forget you…
The ones
who aren’t quite easy to love.
Because they hold a high rank. Based on the price paid for them by the
precious blood of Christ.
And when
you can see them through the blood of Christ, through the price paid for them
to be in the family, then you can humble yourself to love them, to revere them,
to hold them in the high honor they deserve.
expect it to be easy.
But expect
it to be attainable.


preference to one another.”
The Greek
word for preference is proēgeomai and it
means, one going before and showing the way as
an example of deference
What does
deference mean?
submission and respect.”
We can’t
wait for the uneasy to love and show us some respect. We can’t play the ‘I’ll
withhold from you if you withhold from me’ card.
We are to
lead each other by example, showing respect and humbly submitting.
I wonder
if we loved without hypocrisy and showed our fremily respect simply based on
the high rank they hold through the price Jesus paid–His blood–if that
wouldn’t do something inside us.
If maybe
that wouldn’t humble us? Just to show them respect is humbling, don’t you
Life Application: This week, add to your
clinging to what is good, respecting and honoring believers who are uneasy to
honor and love. Find one thing that you can do to show reverence to on of your
God-given fremily. Maybe send them a note of encouragement (pray about who and
what scripture you need to write). Maybe you need to suck it up and ask
forgiveness for your uncomely behavior this week. Eeek! Could you offer to
watch a couple of bratty kids so the woman who rarely speaks to you can have a
few hours to herself? Can you take someone who flaunts their money to lunch and
pay for it? Figure it out. Find a way to show respect. Cling to what is good.
Love without hypocrisy. And I will too.
Prayer: Sweet One, we love you and adore you.
Humble us. Cut away our pride–whatever it may be. Remove our selfishness.
Remind us of your selflessness–all the times you lost sleep to minister to
multitudes and even in your sleep was awakened to comfort and calm fears. How
exhausted, Jesus, you must have been if you could sleep through storms. Never
really having a place to lay your head. This week, help us to be selfless and
see the needs of those who are simply hard for us to honor, respect, and love.
Give us spiritual eyes to see the price paid for them, to see their worth. Show
us this week what we can do to love and who we can bless and then keep
distractions from getting in the way of humbling ourselves and following
through. We seek to honor you. For your glory. For a kingdom that never ends.
In your precious name, Jesus, we ask this. Amen.


Let’s get some dialogue going: Did you do last week’s challenge? Did
you give something up? You don’t have to say what it was, but a simple
“yes” will do, and share how it did or didn’t change your

9 thoughts on “Keep It Humble Part 3: All in the Family

  1. This is perfect timing! Just yesterday I "sucked it up" about someone I'd been struggling with. And you know God's grace gave me peace about it. Funny how He works!

  2. Fremily. I love that! I can think of lots of people who fit that category in my life–and I'm so grateful. I especially loved this: "We can't wait for the uneasy to love and show us some respect. We can't play the 'I'll withhold from you if you withhold from me' card." So very true.

  3. A hard word this morning, but a good word. We try to teach our kids to be kind and respect everyone, but we aren't always willing to follow suit, are we? Time for a refresher course!

  4. So much good stuff here. I really need to wrestle with some of this today.

  5. I'm meditating on this. There are a LOT of places I could apply it to, and I'm sure many who are picturing me when they think of their application:) Good stuff, Jess!

  6. This is so good. I have been struggling with an issue that aligns with this teaching. I LOVE how God works. Lightbulb!

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